3 Reasons God Might Reveal Your Kingdom Spouse (And Why It Actually Matters)
Omygosh, I am so glad that you stumbled on this post! Chances are If you’ve landed here, you know who your kingdom spouse is. If so, congratulations. It’s a massive honor to receive that kind of revelation. It also means something really important: you don’t have the call to singleness on your life, and that’s a big deal (not that having a call to singleness is a bad thing. In fact, Paul actually recommended this in 1 Corinthians 7:8-9).
But before we get into the good stuff, I want to pause and offer a gentle apology. If you’ve been standing for your kingdom spouse, you’ve likely gone through some serious warfare and a whole lot of doubt. I see you. I feel you. And I'm sending you a big, virtual hug. 💛
Now let’s dive into the three main reasons God might tell you who your kingdom spouse is.
1. So You Can Stand for them in Prayer
“Standing” doesn’t mean standing still. On the contrary, standing for your spouse entails acting, namely praying. Standing for your spouse requires that your heart posture is rooted in prayer. Like a plant has roots that go deep in the ground, being rooted in prayer means that you are deeply connected to God. When God reveals your kingdom spouse, it’s often an invitation to intercede for them, to spiritually cover them—like wrapping them in a warm, protective blanket. You can do this by buying a prayer book or by asking God what to intercede for them for.
Let’s be real, the hardest part about standing it that spiritual and the physical often don’t match up. In the spirit, it may be confirmed that person is your future spouse. But in the physical? You two may not even be speaking.
It reminds me of Noah’s Ark. Noah obeyed God’s instructions, building a giant boat even though it had never rained before. People laughed, mocked, and doubted—but Noah stood on God’s word. When the rain finally came, the ark was ready, and everyone else was caught off guard. I am sure Noah was relieved that he had listen to God then. The message of the story? Just because something hasn’t physically happened yet doesn’t mean it’s not going to happen.
2. To Build Your Faith
Let’s be honest: sometimes our faith needs work. Hebrews 11:1 reminds us, “Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen.” Translation? Just because you can’t see it yet, doesn’t mean it’s not on its way.
But we tend to get impatient. Just like Abraham and Sarah did. God promised them a child, but when things weren’t happening fast enough, they took matters into their own hands and ending up having a child outside of their marriage named Ishmael. That decision created a lot of heartache, that still impacts us to this day. But God used that story to build the faith of Abraham and Sarah.
If your faith is feeling weak, ask God for more. Matthew 7:7 says, “Ask and it will be given to you.” But when you ask, be prepared for God to strengthen your faith in unconventional ways and trials because trials are one of the only ways to grow your faith. As you continue to stand for your spouse, your faith will grow.
3. So You Can Testify
This one is my favorite. Your story, your journey of waiting, hoping, standing, isn’t just for you. It’s so that God can get the glory. When I went wedding ring shopping, something I talked about in this video, I told them the love story of me and my future husband and told them that one day when I get engaged, I will bring him to that shop and they will meet him. One day when this does happen, it will be an amazing testimony of faith, and it will point straight to God.
Likewise, when your kingdom marriage finally comes together after seasons of separation, miscommunication, or even rejection, there will be no denying God was in the center of it. Your testimony becomes a beacon of hope for others and a reminder that miracles still happen.
The more impossible your love story seems now, the more beautiful it will be when it unfolds.
A Quick Word of Warning: Be Careful Not to Be Deceived
Sometimes we want something so badly that we convince ourselves it’s from God. This can allow deception to control your mind. I’ve been there. I once thought someone was my kingdom spouse just because everything looked right on paper. He had faith, the family values, the involvement in church... but spiritually, it wasn’t aligning.
I started watching prophetic videos that only confirmed what I wanted to hear. It wasn’t until I had an honest conversation with him that I realized I was trying to turn him into someone he wasn’t meant to be.
Here’s the truth: If someone is your kingdom spouse, you’ll know. God will confirm it—not just through your feelings, but through His Word, through dreams, sermons, conversations with trusted friends and mentors. It’ll be undeniable.
If you’re confused or uncertain, ask God for clarity. And if you’re excusing toxic behavior just to make someone “fit,” that’s a red flag.
Final Thought + Moment of Inspiration ✨
In this journey, having trustworthy voices matters. Two YouTubers I personally love are:
Wisdom Speaks Life – She speaks into the lives of Chosen Ones with such clarity and spiritual depth.
Sacred Silhouettes with Tanya Denise – A newer voice but full of insight, truth, and divine encouragement.
Remember: even if a prophetic YouTuber is legit, not every word they release is for you. Test everything in prayer and let the Holy Spirit confirm.
A Prayer for You 💬
Dear Lord, thank you for the person reading this. Thank you that they are seeking You and standing in faith. I ask that You give them clarity, peace, and discernment. Strengthen their heart to continue standing, and let them know undeniably if someone is truly their kingdom spouse. And if they’re forcing a connection that’s not from You, help them release it with grace. In Jesus’ name, amen.
If this blog resonated with you, please share it with someone else walking through this season. And if you want more encouragement on standing, prayer, and relationships, let me know in the comments—I’ve got so much more to say.
Until next time, stay faithful, stay focused, and remember to share the love of Jesus with at least one person this week.
For more Singleness advice, Buy your copy of Since When did Single Mean Sad :)
With love,
💛 Author Gabrielle Denise